Monday, July 18, 2011


Let’s jump right on in, shall we?

Last week I watched the movie Shirley Valentine…again.

I’d seen it before…years ago, when I was a teen…and I always remember it fondly with a touch of the bittersweet. Even then, when most of my life was yet to be lived, I felt the loss of the younger me and empathized with Shirley V. big time.

Shirley Valentine is the tale of a housewife in her early 40’s who goes on holiday to Greece and rediscovers herself.  The movie features flashbacks to pivotal moments in Shirley’s life…and it provides a fascinating look at her day-to-day predictable and lonely life.

Don’t get me wrong…Shirley Valentine is a comedy and there are laugh out loud moments throughout the film…but there is always an undercurrent of sadness and regret for the loss of the person she used to be before she settled, fell in line, and became the person everyone seemed to expect her to be.

As I watched the movie again I was struck by how different it felt now that I’m older.  Shirley at 40 something doesn’t seem older…she doesn’t seem like she’s from a different generation even though the film came out in 1989.  Now, Shirley Valentine and I aren’t so far apart…and I experienced her humor, regret, discovery, and empowerment through different eyes.

There is a song that accompanies the film…with lyrics that caress the soul…sung lovingly of the girl that used to be Shirley and how she could fly…how she was free…how she used to go dancing.


As the credits rolled on Shirley Valentine I reflected back on the girl who used to be me.

And yes, I could fly…we all have the ability.

The question before me was whether I would try.



Oh, hell yes.

I won’t always land smoothly (wink), but I think the important thing is to take off in the first place.

Happy Monday.

Go catch air, y’all!


Kevin Smith said...

I'm a daily reader and huge fan of your blog. Thanks for this post--great way to start the week! Keep up the great work.

Laura said...

I loved "Shirley Valentine!" I also remember seeing it as a teenager, and being touched by it, even though Shirley was impossibly old. Now I'm Shirley's age, but I decided to shake things up in a different way-- I have twin toddlers! Maybe not every middle-aged woman's dream, to start all over, but I'm having a ball!

Mark said...

Hi Pam. We must be linked, as this is something I think about a lot. I never, ever, ever want to be robbed of my passion for living. And I dated an older man who was so completely passionless- just locked in a box of his own making. Without getting too graphic on your page, let me just say that Passion is a totality; physical passion cannot be had without emotional passion. To quote a poem, "I don't want to die simply having visited this world."

Anonymous said...

There's an awesome series by the name of Black Butler you should see. The butler in question is also called Sebastian, and he's a demon.

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