Friday, December 04, 2020

On a random afternoon …

Greetings! This year took nearly all I have to give, so I haven’t had the emotional energy to post as much as I would like to. That said, I’m not closing up shop because I do love knowing I have someplace to practice the fine art of bitchitude!

So, 2020. 


My family dealt with our older brother’s recovery from COVID-19 and the stroke that followed … and the two brain surgeries required to save his life. We watched friends lose parents, partners, colleagues, and loved ones. And in November, our mother passed away after suffering a stroke.
I’d like to thank everyone who reached out with support and condolences this past year. Y’all have no idea how your kindness and generosity kept a sistah going, and it warms my heart to know that thousands of people have donated to Fair Fight in honor of our mother’s lifelong commitment to voting rights. 

Thank you.


When I was a young activist, I asked an elder what advice she wished someone had given her at my age. She laughed and confessed that she wasn’t very good at taking advice when she was young, and then she said that the best advice she ever got was to know who you are. 

After the elder shared her advice, I asked her why she felt it was so critical to know who you are. 

A slow smile across her face, a wink of her eye, and she replied that people will try to define you for all kinds of reasons and they will assign motives to your actions that are more about why they would do a thing than why they think you did it. And you can't control that. 

Off and on, at the most random moments, I find myself meditating on that wonderful human’s advice and then checking-in on who I am. What made me, what motivates me, what lives in my heart and guides my life?

She was right. There is comfort and power in knowing who I am.

In times of calm or crisis.

After a victory or a defeat.

In celebration or in mourning.

Or on a random afternoon.


Pat Nelson said...

Welcome back! You have been missed - totally understandable with this 2020 thingy.
Thank you for sharing your heart and being with us all.

dinthebeast said...

It's good hearing from you again on this page. May 2021 bring you much better opportunities to be you in this world. Or less dire ones, anyway.
They've changed blogger around, or at least I've read some of my favorite bloggers complain about it, and maybe that's why your text is partially hidden by your sidebar...

-Doug in Sugar Pine

Shark-Fu said...

Thanks for the info, Doug! I've updated my template. Happiest New Year to you!

Anonymous said...

Great advice, very well explained too.

Peterr said...

That's a wise elder you chatted with . . . and you showed your own wisdom in seeking out the wisdom of her years.

Peace to you and power, as we move into 2021!

John James O'Brien said...

Love the "advice fro an elder" and your deft recreation of it. Resonates with this 67 year old lgbt family Canuck.

So sorry to learn of your loss. Grieving here, too, my partner and I. Melding thoughts, we hope and believe that the essence of those we lose lives on in us, so knowing yourself is a way of honouring one who lives within.

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