tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post114857064262453345..comments2024-01-17T15:05:50.120-06:00Comments on AngryBlackBitch: Untitled...Shark-Fuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03323962708956637012noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1149027713688570092006-05-30T17:21:00.000-05:002006-05-30T17:21:00.000-05:00I became pregnant when I was 17 and there weren't ...I became pregnant when I was 17 and there weren't anyone writing beautiful blog postings about my situation, or others becoming inspired and checking out Big Sister websites, it was just me and my equally promiscuous and in some sense stupid friends trying to handle such a big thing on our own. By 17 I certainly wasn't the first of my "crew" to become pregnant, so it was a matter of finding where to go, getting the money from Patrick "whatever the hell his last name is" and making an appointment. At that time abortion was basically another form of contraception to us (And by us I mean every other high school girl in my home town). Everyone was doing it. Now that I'm older, and supposedly wiser, I would hope I could say that I see the error of my ways, but I still see myself doing the same things but just in a different way. I know there's a wake up call in this story somewhere, I'm just still looking for it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148999367327868462006-05-30T09:29:00.000-05:002006-05-30T09:29:00.000-05:00I've spent years working in social services in som...I've spent years working in social services in some capacity or another and IMO birth control and abortions aren't the answer. Abstinence only education isn't the answer only. I've handed out birth control and information like a Pez dispenser only to turn around and have those same girls come back pregnant. I live in Alabama, I've made countless 'runs to the border' with young girls in tow, only to have those same girls come back pregnant again a few months later. <BR/><BR/>There's a desperation, a daddy hunger for male attention that no amount of lecturing or time from another female will ever assuage. These girls are so desperate they're giving boys knobbers in the hallway at middle schools. Do you really think they're in a mindset to hear about safety and prevention of disease/pregnancy? When I worked at Job Corps staff had to constantly round up young girls doing the same out in public, even though they knew we had security cameras everywhere! These girls aren't having sex because they're horny. Good grief, who's any worse in bed than a teen boy? Most of them don't even have a clue as to what a clit is, and wouldn't give a damn if they did know. No, its about getting a boy, any boy, because they don't have a man at home. <BR/><BR/>As a dyed in the wool feminist, it makes me crazy to say this, but unless and until we get our out of wedlock birthrate under control we are going to continue to see these girls take crazy chances in order to be with a guy. <BR/><BR/>For too many years we've told ourselves that our children don't need daddies. That a woman could be both 'mother and father.' Its past time that we stop deluding ourselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148974870292332852006-05-30T02:41:00.000-05:002006-05-30T02:41:00.000-05:00Sex education and wide open channels of communicat...Sex education and wide open channels of communication. But sometimes even that is not enough. Young girls just don't understand the power of their own bodies. When one is so young, wrapping her head around the idea that her own body will produce a baby, is harder than grasping the concept that the universe is infinite. How do we get beyond that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148893516799039102006-05-29T04:05:00.000-05:002006-05-29T04:05:00.000-05:00I can't even imagine how awful it must be to have ...I can't even imagine how awful it must be to have a baby so young. An abortion is SO called for in this situation. I would have done anything to spare my daughters such a nightmare. What is that mother: insane? Well,she says, I just don't believe in abortion, because I'm a good Christian woman. F her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148832448279325052006-05-28T11:07:00.000-05:002006-05-28T11:07:00.000-05:00I agree with Riley...I'd be glad to buy something ...I agree with Riley...<BR/><BR/>I'd be glad to buy something or crochet a baby blanket.<BR/><BR/>There by the Grace of God goes the mentee. I could have met a similar fate, what with my mother being the way she was and still IS.Mavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159539883712835177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148762106453003902006-05-27T15:35:00.000-05:002006-05-27T15:35:00.000-05:00She's having a baby, y'all. Culturally, she doesn...She's having a baby, y'all. Culturally, she doesn't live in the world of drive-across-the-river or give-it-up-for-adoption. She lives in the world of I'm-pregnant-and-having-a-baby. The hardest part of being Pro Choice is accepting choices I wouldn't make myself. I understand wanting sex. I understand not believing in abortion. I understand keeping your baby. I understand not crossing your mama, your family, your community. It's why I don't understand not preventing pregnancy in the first place. I don't understand not asking for help when it's offered. I would have driven her to the clinic, bought the condoms. I felt like a safe sex pusher for God's sake. And it didn't work. This time. I'll try harder to help her avoid another one. Sistahs need to work with sistahs and too-young sistahs on this issue. I'll check out the virtual baby shower y'all seem to want to throw. Thanks.<BR/><BR/>C-MoneyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148688657037829402006-05-26T19:10:00.000-05:002006-05-26T19:10:00.000-05:00Childbirth is scary for these young kids, too. Eve...Childbirth is scary for these young kids, too. Even if they are attending routine prenatal visits, they don't have reliable experienced non-exaggerating women to consult (relatives are generally not too believable to many kids this age), and the kids get all sorts of wild notions about birth.<BR/><BR/>NancyPAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148680585622157082006-05-26T16:56:00.000-05:002006-05-26T16:56:00.000-05:00Oh my ... ABB, my heart is going out to you, to yo...Oh my ... ABB, my heart is going out to you, to your sister, and to your sister's mentee. Have you looked into adoption programs? <BR/>I can't think of the right words, so I am sending good vibes y'all's ways.Joolyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04235093955722303192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148673525103895212006-05-26T14:58:00.000-05:002006-05-26T14:58:00.000-05:00I am (un)lucky enough to travel for my job, and my...I am (un)lucky enough to travel for my job, and my local women's shelter always is happy to get those tiny toiletry kits, shampoos, and other "smell wells" hotels hand out and no one knows exactly what to do with once they're home... it's easy to forget that cleanliness may be next to godliness but it is also a luxury. I found out if you ask nicely, the cleaning staff will give you handfuls of the stuff!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148670651222817642006-05-26T14:10:00.000-05:002006-05-26T14:10:00.000-05:00Rileysdtr...You restore a bitch's faith......and t...Rileysdtr...<BR/><BR/>You restore a bitch's faith...<BR/><BR/>...and this bitch will keep you posted.<BR/><BR/>In the mean time...strollers, diapers and all manner of items are always needed at local shelters for teen mothers too.Shark-Fuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03323962708956637012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148664074136155892006-05-26T12:21:00.000-05:002006-05-26T12:21:00.000-05:00HEY! Prayers are all well and good, folks, but le...HEY! Prayers are all well and good, folks, but let's get to the point, here, after we're done gnashing our teeth. All of us want to do "something" - who says the Mentee can't be registered at BabysRUs? Can't have a shower thrown by family? Do you know how much kids cost these days? We are all children of God, people... let's lift up one of our own. Ms. Bitch, if you and Sister C-Money would be so good as to set up the Mentee at Target, or Wal-Mart, or where-ever-the-hell expecting mothers do these things and post it to the Blog, I would count it a privilege to send something. I think registrations can be set with everything sent automatically to a predetermined address... who's in with me for a stroller?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148660817644526472006-05-26T11:26:00.000-05:002006-05-26T11:26:00.000-05:00Thank you, bitch for clarifying, and I apologize- ...Thank you, bitch for clarifying, and I apologize- I was thinking it was a derogatory name like "mental". To say that she has no choice really breaks my heart. I find it very sad that people go around touting "women's right to choose" and yet that choice doesn't even apply to minors. This is my opinion, and I realize that most may not agree with me, but it is what it is. We are the only society in the history of the world that sees people under 18 still as children. Study world history, and you'll find that many ancient societies and tribes held rituals for children once they went through puberty, marking their entrance into adulthood. We're the only ones with the concept of "teenagers". In the past, "teenagers" had the same rights and responsibilities adults had. They could work, have a home of their own, participate in political action, marry and have children, and even be religious and political leaders. Teenagers in our society are not ready for these rights and responsibilities, imo, because we don't allow them to be. Your niece may not be a woman with the "right to choose" in the eyes of the law, but I believe she is a woman in the eyes of (whatever name you attach to the divine). I hope that whatever her choice is, (in your words, you call it her "opinion") will be able to happen for her, and in the future younger women will have the same rights to their bodies that you and I have. Good luck...Legacy Userhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12694633933949806265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148659590671433942006-05-26T11:06:00.000-05:002006-05-26T11:06:00.000-05:00This is a truly amazing post. I've linked to it fr...This is a truly amazing post. I've linked to it from my blog, and I am wishing you all strength. I know there are closer places where abortion is legal, but if she wanted to come to Montana to exercise her choice, you would all have a place to stay. I hate that Missouri makes a difficult situation even moreso.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148658972510758632006-05-26T10:56:00.000-05:002006-05-26T10:56:00.000-05:00To all...thanks, a bitch needed all of that in a b...To all...thanks, a bitch needed all of that in a big way.<BR/><BR/>To Danielle and to clarify...this young woman is not blood family. My sister and this bitch are mentors, which is why the woman in question is called a mentee by me.<BR/><BR/>And to the question of what is his 14 year old's choice...she has none. She is allowed an opinion that is not enforced by state law, but she can not act on that opinion due to parental consent laws, so it really isn't a choice.<BR/><BR/>It's more like a wish, isn't it...when you have no legal options.<BR/><BR/>That is what pro-choice boils down to - the right to make medical decisions and choices for yourself legally.Shark-Fuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03323962708956637012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148658333730656852006-05-26T10:45:00.000-05:002006-05-26T10:45:00.000-05:00Yeah. That shit Eric said? Put me down for that ...Yeah. That shit Eric said? Put me down for that too. I've been a Planned Parenthood member since forever, ditto Amnesty International, I get a box full of lefty pleas for money every day in the mail, and sometimes this bitch just wants to throw up her hands and say "GodDAMN it! How many years and dollars do I have to spend to convince people of plain good SENSE?" But Eric is right. I'm gonna go sign up to make a difference to ONE kid, even if she DOES get pregnant, hell, ESPECIALLY if she get's pregnant. Stay angry, ABB. You give a fresh shot in the arm to all us tired bitches.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148656109793808312006-05-26T10:08:00.000-05:002006-05-26T10:08:00.000-05:00This post is going to haunt me for some time for s...This post is going to haunt me for some time for so many reasons . . . I grew up in the St. Louis area and happened to go across the river to Illinois to get an abortion when I was 17, so my first thought was, "I'd drive there to take her across the river if she wanted" though I'm sure you know more about that than I do. I mean, even in a world where she could get an abortion, she'd probably be caste out by her family, right? That is choiceless; I didn't know Missouri required parental consent for abortions. <BR/><BR/>I just don't know what to say. Maybe it's time for me to do more than just sign Planned Parenthood petitions . . .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148655947348043062006-05-26T10:05:00.000-05:002006-05-26T10:05:00.000-05:00The good news is that teen pregnancy is declining....The good news is that teen pregnancy is declining. The bad news is that statistics say absolutely nothing about the ache and loss of each number on the page. I've taught in urban public schools for years, and it still breaks my heart every single time one of my students gets pg. Fourteen yr olds are still children, and every time the shit I see on MySpace wipes that thought clean, I am reminded of one of my sophomore students who spent 1/2 her time shakin' her groove thang and the other 1/2 wishing fervently for a Tickle Me Elmo for Christmas. <BR/><BR/>Peace to you, your sis and her mentee.Gwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12526629366170486737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148653683966331762006-05-26T09:28:00.000-05:002006-05-26T09:28:00.000-05:00Bitch-What is your niece's choice? (Not your, not...Bitch-<BR/>What is your niece's choice? (Not your, not her mother's, not the law)<BR/>And why are you calling her "mentee"? What does that mean?Legacy Userhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12694633933949806265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148651966408642472006-05-26T08:59:00.000-05:002006-05-26T08:59:00.000-05:00ABB - what a poignant and powerful reminder of the...ABB - what a poignant and powerful reminder of the devastating impact our misguided social policies have on those who are hurt the most - our children. <BR/>I was a high school teacher in an urban school in Texas, and it broke my heart every time one of my best and brightest girls - once a nationally ranked athlete, another time the class valedictorian -both with full college scholarships, had their dreams derailed by an irresponsible choice. <BR/>I know the disappointment your sister must feel, and my heart goes out to both of you. I know the frustration that comes with dealing with parents who don't see more for their children in the way that you do. I can only hope that enough of us will keep pushing, keep giving our money, keep volunteering, until 14 year old girls looking for love and acceptance in the arms of their 17 year old boyfriends will at least have the means to easily protect themselves from more far-reaching consequences.emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03117601969739980131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148648195105163632006-05-26T07:56:00.000-05:002006-05-26T07:56:00.000-05:00ABB, you inspire me in so many ways. And reading ...ABB, you inspire me in so many ways. And reading this post, about your anger and frustration in your efforts to just DO SOMETHING GOOD have truly inspired me. None of us are perfect and who can expect us to be? But there you are, out in the literal trenches, doing what work you can and effecting what change you can. You and your sister, C-Money. You have both inspired me. I have waffled long on what I have to offer as a big brother/mentor but I am going to do it. In fact, I'm going to look for programs to volunteer for right now. Thank you for your inspiration. And keep on fighting the good fight.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148647240815259092006-05-26T07:40:00.000-05:002006-05-26T07:40:00.000-05:00Given that (1)I'm probably bringing up plans of ac...Given that (1)I'm probably bringing up plans of action you've already considered and discarded and (2) my unfamiliarity with the laws of Missouri -- is it possible to go to court and ask the judge to emancipate this child in order to get around the parental-consent issue? Is it possible the mother's parental rights could be terminated and a guardian appointed who could/would then give consent? Besides the practical aspect, my heart weeps for all involved in this tragedy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148629345738921882006-05-26T02:42:00.000-05:002006-05-26T02:42:00.000-05:00oh. my. god. it just gets worse. so the 14-year-...oh. my. god. <BR/><BR/>it just gets worse. so the 14-year-old's mother... nay, the soon-to-be 29-year-old grandmother is anti-choice??? and so the girl whose body, mind and soul are first and foremost affected by this has no choice in the matter except... except... 'she shoulda kept her legs closed in the first place'???<BR/><BR/>oh. my. god.<BR/><BR/>that makes my heart drop into my stomach, and they both ache. in theory, parental notification laws are based on good intentions, but good intentions also pave the road to hell. be strong, bitch. if i were a praying man, you'd have my prayers, but you'll have to settle with my thoughts and hopes.<BR/><BR/>yep, beyond frustratingleomangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10253348099287616819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148615010402688352006-05-25T22:43:00.000-05:002006-05-25T22:43:00.000-05:00ABB –I wish I had something insightful to write. ...ABB –<BR/><BR/>I wish I had something insightful to write. All I can offer, though, is my support and best thoughts. My greatest hope is that the young woman will not feel trapped and desperate. Instead, I hope she will prosper before and after the birth.GayProfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11289510184782252498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148607439038921852006-05-25T20:37:00.000-05:002006-05-25T20:37:00.000-05:00Makes me want to holler, too....Makes me want to holler, too....G Bitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02627688780324880935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1148602585813961012006-05-25T19:16:00.000-05:002006-05-25T19:16:00.000-05:00Fat Dancing Bitch...Fantabulous name, btw.Yes, tha...Fat Dancing Bitch...<BR/>Fantabulous name, btw.<BR/><BR/>Yes, that NARAL counter has been there for a while and a bitch is pro-choice.<BR/><BR/>In this specific situation my state of residence is the primary issue. St. Louis is a border city...in a parental notification state. Across the river things are different, but in Missouri any woman under the age of 18 must receive parental consent.<BR/><BR/>And the woman in question is 14...her mother is anti-choice...and our hands are tied.<BR/><BR/>To anyone wondering what to do...visit www.ppslr.org and go to the political activism section, register and join the battle against restrictions that call a woman a child for 9 months of pregnancy and then an adult once the child is born.<BR/><BR/>To anyone who ever questioned the pro-choice fight, our efforts to battle abstinence only education, the need for comprehensive sex education and access to affordable reproductive options and the full protection of choice...drop me a line and this bitch will bring you up to speed real quick.<BR/><BR/>Frustrated doesn't begin to describe this...Shark-Fuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03323962708956637012noreply@blogger.com