tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post114660657790241869..comments2024-01-17T15:05:50.120-06:00Comments on AngryBlackBitch: A pondering...Shark-Fuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03323962708956637012noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146803621243371642006-05-04T23:33:00.000-05:002006-05-04T23:33:00.000-05:00My mom says- you don't know what's cooking in othe...My mom says- you don't know what's cooking in other peoples pots until they lift the lid.<BR/><BR/>Some folks shouldn't cook.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14936893524754058610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146755564788424602006-05-04T10:12:00.000-05:002006-05-04T10:12:00.000-05:00And yet we still teach our kids not to talk to 'st...And yet we still teach our kids not to talk to 'strangers,' as though the dangerous strangers somehow look dangerous and can be recognized as dangerous. We don't tell them to beware of the ones that seem like such nice guys.Spring, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08360023543278024154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146708795363658432006-05-03T21:13:00.000-05:002006-05-03T21:13:00.000-05:00I disagree - having also grown up in a toxic house...I disagree - having also grown up in a toxic household, I can usually see behind and below what others see as a clean facade. For one, I am instantly suspicious of clean cut, technically good-looking white men. But regardless of looks, within a few minutes of talking to a person and observing how he's watching me, I have correctly guessed the guy was up to no good. Once it was a potential boss everyone else loved. <BR/><BR/>It is a kind of silver lining of having been abused that one learns to anticipate it. The real pisser, though, is that one also sometimes is attracted to it, for reasons one cannot comprehend. This realization smacked me in the face two years ago when I saw that I'd been dating a sociopath - not a criminal one, but certainly a guy with a few rips in his soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146695168521242802006-05-03T17:26:00.000-05:002006-05-03T17:26:00.000-05:00Hey, that teacher is WHITE, so you leave 'im alone...Hey, that teacher is WHITE, so you leave 'im alone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146690011599731632006-05-03T16:00:00.000-05:002006-05-03T16:00:00.000-05:00People certainly have different sides to them, but...People certainly have different sides to them, but the surprise people feel is completely understandable. While you have a point about the uncertainties of relationships, the other side deserves attention. Most people are not murders. Only a few people commit such horrific crimes. Some people have hidden sides of themselves that turn out to be wonderful. I have had friends who then out of nowhere were revealed to be skilled artists or great singers. Amateur art shows, talent shows and even just karaoke outings have changed my mind about people I thought I knew. I found out a week or two ago about the humble volunteer work of some acquaintances. They never would have told me.<BR/><BR/>Plenty of the people who seem so nice from the outside are...<BR/><BR/>good people.<BR/><BR/>You're right about some things. We often have harmfully misleading ideas about how monsters should look. We all can make big mistakes in assessing situations and other people, and this crime illustrates the ugly side. It is not the only side.Michael M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08814271222082824664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146686723107369282006-05-03T15:05:00.000-05:002006-05-03T15:05:00.000-05:00Good points. It's kinda like that "Buckwheat Has B...Good points. It's kinda like that "Buckwheat Has Been Shot" SNL skit in the '80s:<BR/><BR/>(something to the effect of)<BR/>Reporter: "Are you surprised that he shot Buckwheat?"<BR/>Grade School Teach of John David Stutts: "Oh Yeah. That's all he ever talked about."<BR/><BR/>Do reporters actually ever think they're going to get answers like this?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146680654283225072006-05-03T13:24:00.000-05:002006-05-03T13:24:00.000-05:00...Hmmmm...Disturbing as hell....Great post.. : )...Hmmmm...Disturbing as hell....Great post.. : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146675413559803722006-05-03T11:56:00.000-05:002006-05-03T11:56:00.000-05:00All of his friends thought my father was the sweet...All of his friends thought my father was the sweetest, nicest guy. Daddy was very careful to only scream and curse at us when they weren't around.Homerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18107337628719451890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146623839716925482006-05-02T21:37:00.000-05:002006-05-02T21:37:00.000-05:00Excellent commentary, ABB. Totally true - you kno...Excellent commentary, ABB. Totally true - you know of someone what they allow you to know and no more. I can attest to thinking and doing some shit that NO ONE knew about, not even those closest to me. Not that it was bad, it was just my bidness and no one else's, is all.<BR/><BR/>Glad to see you are feeling better. Hope the Neti Pot experiment works. I've never used one but hear good things about them.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16010635183616220660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146612834771908832006-05-02T18:33:00.000-05:002006-05-02T18:33:00.000-05:00very true. we are a silly bunch aren't we? peopl...very true. we are a silly bunch aren't we? people seem to think they can tell from looking at someone else that they a) have murderous tendencies, b) would/would not rape a stripper, c) have an std, d) and on and on...<BR/><BR/>willfully ignorant.<BR/><BR/>we show the world what we want the world to think of us, not our ugliest side (unless we're truly anti-social, but that's rare). from ted bundy to jeffrey dahmer, no one imagines these "nice guys" could do something like that. hell, btk was a church leader, father, husband, and so on, and he did some truly heinous sh--tuff.<BR/><BR/>and how many divorcees knew their exes were such (fill in the blank)s when they got married? exactly. it would be easy to be a good judge of character if people weren't such a sneaky, conniving group of animals. but we all have our skeletons, even the best of us.leomangehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10253348099287616819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146609749597634042006-05-02T17:42:00.000-05:002006-05-02T17:42:00.000-05:00Interesting comment you make regarding our idea of...Interesting comment you make regarding our idea of those who are dangerous as foaming at the mouth lunatics.This is something we are taught early on. I guess it is far too frightening to think otherwise. I mean, how utterly unnerving it is to contemplate the idea that anyone you run across could be some insane person. It is mind boggling at best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1146609147931765362006-05-02T17:32:00.000-05:002006-05-02T17:32:00.000-05:00Dude looks like a psycho! Who's surprised?Dude <I>looks</I> like a psycho! Who's surprised?Qusanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06870207595639207065noreply@blogger.com