tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post113217355046761873..comments2024-01-17T15:05:50.120-06:00Comments on AngryBlackBitch: To work or not to work...Shark-Fuhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03323962708956637012noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132262864699518582005-11-17T15:27:00.000-06:002005-11-17T15:27:00.000-06:00Well said, ABB. Thank you.Well said, ABB. Thank you.TwinsGoddesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09408606035762981315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132258258923980282005-11-17T14:10:00.000-06:002005-11-17T14:10:00.000-06:00Excellent post, as usual.I want to stay at home be...Excellent post, as usual.<BR/><BR/>I want to stay at home because I believe it would be best for me and my baby. I Will be working!<BR/><BR/>Won't it be nice when people realize they can live for themselves without threat of judgement for the choices they've made that were right for them? My brother was a stay at home dad for several years after he got laid off from work (in Missouri) during the internet bubble burst. His wife worked and they did great! I admire him for not worrying about what anyone thought or said and doing what was best for his family.<BR/><BR/>May we all have the strength to make the right choices for ourselves and our chil'ren!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02107238396004368640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132244037212393972005-11-17T10:13:00.000-06:002005-11-17T10:13:00.000-06:00My grandmother had 14 children, 1 of which was sti...My grandmother had 14 children, 1 of which was stillborn and 1 of which died as a toddler to some disease. Her first husband was killed in an accident at his job, the second husband died shortly after the last baby was born (some consider this a blessing). She bought 65+ acres on a survivor check from her first husband, she never turned away a stranger, and always made sure there was food over her children's head. She lived a hard life, leaving this earth at the ripe old age of 62 in 1960. <BR/><BR/>I sit in awe and listen to the tales my parents tell about their childhoods and how hard it was. <BR/><BR/>We as a collective society are a "give me" generation. <BR/><BR/>I'm with you on this one. All these "studies" and "debates" are mundane at best. <BR/><BR/>And being a stay-at-home parent is not the easiest job in the world, either.<BR/><BR/>Great post.Legacy Userhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11161208110035488124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132240565346485332005-11-17T09:16:00.000-06:002005-11-17T09:16:00.000-06:00You know which kids are happiest? Kids with (relat...You know which kids are happiest? Kids with (relatively sane*) parents who love them and who are involved in the kid's lives. That has nothing to do with working, not working, wealth, poverty, whatever.<BR/><BR/>I feel similarly about schools. A kid with an involved parent can succeed in almost any school - public or private. (Disclaimer, I send my kids to somewhat urban public schools, so the above might be pre-middle school parental denial.)<BR/><BR/>*My momma was of the INsane stay at home or work part time variety who thought I was kind of a burden to her because she'd have to get out of the house a couple of days a week to do things I wanted to do. So that didn't really work for me.bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07730450667890852755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132240055919549572005-11-17T09:07:00.000-06:002005-11-17T09:07:00.000-06:00Found your blog thru the Salon shout-out & have to...Found your blog thru the Salon shout-out & have to say I really love your stuff. This post is right on the money, and very insightful! My husband stays at home with our daughter. Heck, he never liked working that much anyway, but I love my career and my job, so that worked out well anyway. Why don't more daddies stay home? Why is this such an uncommon concept? But seriously, I make a professional salary, and even so, we can hardly afford for him to stay home. How in heck's name do families manage when neither parent makes enough scratch to outweigh the cost of a week in daycare? And that's in 2-parent families - consider the "choices" available to a single mom! (I will now resist the urge to treat your topic as a lead-in to a rant on the economic inequities of life in America, much as I'd love to...)Susan D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16316211394452388125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132234740925188982005-11-17T07:39:00.000-06:002005-11-17T07:39:00.000-06:00I hear ya' on the insane mother who should have go...I hear ya' on the insane mother who should have gone to work instead of staying home and raising one neurotic son, one helpless daughter and one she-ain't-perfect-but-she'll-do daughter. But I digress.thatfarmgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15606874044483123485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132199879302499962005-11-16T21:57:00.000-06:002005-11-16T21:57:00.000-06:00i've done both and i have both kinds of feelings. ...i've done both and i have both kinds of feelings. fact is i tried to do what was best for me and the kids. it was good for me to be home when i was able and good for me to go back to work when i was ready.<BR/><BR/>and now... my wonderful hubby works part-time so that he can be home for the kids, clean the house, and shop for food. and he is wonderful at it. i actually dread the day he gets a full-time job and i have to help with a bigger share of the dishes.<BR/><BR/>so... now you know two stay-at-home daddys.christine mtmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10250140239270398550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132195920456097222005-11-16T20:52:00.000-06:002005-11-16T20:52:00.000-06:00I work; therefore, I have a child in daycare. Tha...I work; therefore, I have a child in daycare. Thank the Lord Geo and I make enough cash to put Dink in one of the areas better private daycares. I know that is not an option for everyone so I feel blessed and lucky.<BR/><BR/>I know of some moms that stay home because working would have been pointless (paycheck not equaling daycare cost). I feel for those moms because they want to work outside the home but the US economy is stacked against them.<BR/><BR/>Then there are the moms who are such loudmouth pains in the backsides with their "I'm a stay at home mommy because I believe in God, family values, Rick Santorum, and Scooter". It's THOSE friggin stay at homers that annoy the bejesus out of me. Nothing says those kids will be well adjusted and wholesome. <BR/><BR/>Case in point - the 18 year old guy who shot and killed his 14 year old girlfriend's parents. He shot daddy in the back of the head (how cowardly) and mommy in the front point blank. Both of those kids were home-schooled with stay at home moms. Now he's looking at the needle of death and she ... well, no one knows what's gonna happen to her. Point was they were products of a "Christian" family-valued out the butt, Bush supporting family. And they will never feel freedom again.<BR/><BR/>Like you said Shark, it's case by case.Maidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09552795753236139244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132181112951880022005-11-16T16:45:00.000-06:002005-11-16T16:45:00.000-06:00And, being the father you refer to, I can only say...And, being the father you refer to, I can only say that this was an excellent post.<BR/><BR/>For some reason, (inhereted guilt?) mothers always seem to worry what <B>others</B> might say about their motherhood skills, wether they work or not.<BR/><BR/>Fuck it! Every family must do what feels best for them. There are children who lived with their stay-at-home-mother and got fucked up... There are children who spent most of their time at day care centers and got fucked up.<BR/><BR/>And of course, the other way around too.<BR/><BR/>I've seen children who have grown up with abusive parents and they still turned out okay. I've seen children who got everything a human ever could wish for and still ended up in jail.<BR/><BR/>Parents who feel good inside stand a better chance of raising okay kids. Where the kids spend most of their day doesn't really matter.PissedOffPencilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01948263739795058522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132174795952038342005-11-16T14:59:00.000-06:002005-11-16T14:59:00.000-06:00AMEN, sister. It's a choice you make and live with...AMEN, sister. It's a choice you make and live with. So live it to the fullest and quit worrying about the choice you've already made!Wander with Josiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00999518340852438586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10755833.post-1132174360091211722005-11-16T14:52:00.000-06:002005-11-16T14:52:00.000-06:00super fucking post....super fucking post....AOBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02664333737875522229noreply@blogger.com